5 Best Positions in Bed

I borrowed two Cosmopolitan Magazines from Georgia last week and I enjoyed reading them.Some say the magazine is only about sex, but hey there are fashion issues, kikay advices and relationship topics inside those glossy pages too. But really, this mag is not for the close minded people, those people who are not yet comfortable with their sensuality. Honestly, I enjoy the sexy parts the most (especially the embarrasing stories of lovers), well I could have borrowed the Preview or Candy Mag instead if I don't.

Actually the "Give Him The Best Sex of His Life (Be So Good, He'll Forget His Name)" written in bold letters on the cover page caught my attention. It's not that I am planning to use them but when I asked Monette what page the article was, she answered faster than I can flip the pages to the table of contents. So I thought, maybe there's really something interesting in there. True enough, while reading the 3-paged article I find it amusing how many ways you can give delight to your man.

True to being a taurean, I am a very sensual person. I am very expressive, if you're a prim and proper type of guy who detests out of the blue smacks and hugs then I'm not the girl for you. Between pleasing and being pleased, I prefer the former. But I'm not an easy catch as you might think, yes I can burn like fire but I can be cold as ice, so cold that it could bite the inner core of your ego. But I don't need 101 ways to start the spark, you just have to earn my respect and trust to be worth the affection I can give to the every inch of you.

Does showing love really have to come in 3 erotic pages? Can intensity be only measured in moans?

So I took a trip down the memory lane and even the dreamland, and I have come up with a list of my 5 favorite positions in bed that could start the fire burnin'.

1. BookWorm - You're both sitting on the bed while the headboard supports his back and he enwraps you with his arms, as you curl yourself and rest your back on his chest. This is best when you're sharing a good book because sometimes reading a book becomes more interesting when you discuss it with someone. You'll also get an idea about how his mind works and his insights. In the process you'll get to know your man better while enjoying his warmth.

2. Lovin' Legs - You sit on the bed, you can coil you legs or not as long as it's comfortable enough for your man to lay his head on. Then you caress his hair and massage his head, you can even steal an upside down kiss (ala Spiderman and Kirsten Dunst) while you watch your favorite show on TV or DVD. This position is a common sight among lovers at the park or by the seashore but this time it's in the comfort of your bed away from the "osyosero" and "osyoserang" passers by, it's just you and him and your lovin' legs. =)

3. Touch of Love - After his hard day at work let him lie on his chest and straddle him while you give him a good body massage. Nothing beats the touch of love in healing a tired body. (But watchout, this position can turn him on and you'll end up giving him more than a wholesome rubbin'.) ;p

4. Scooping - It's just as simple as lying on the bed and let him hug you from the back but it could be one of the most intimate experience you can have. This position conveys security and affection more than words can. It's like telling your partner, "I love you, and I will always be behind you no matter what."

5. Tete-a-Tete - This for me is the best position of all, you can do it either sitting or lying down. As long as you're spending time and just having a good conversation with the one you love. You might think this is too simple and there is nothing really special about this but mind you this could be the most difficult of all. Because frankly, when two lovers get a chance to be on the same bed alone, physical urge could easily creep in and overcome the need to nurture the relationship emotionally.

You might think that I am being too mushy or corny here, but believe me, these five ways to enjoy each other in bed areoften taken for granted but which effects are far more lasting than reaching O Town. When things get rough, it's not how many times you made him forget his name that will count, it's these simple and intimate moments that will make it still worth fighting for.

No-Strings-Attached

I'm still feeling a bit under the weather due to the tonsillitis and fever I suffered during the long weekend that now turned into a 'Sipon'. But I've forgotten about it for a while when my gayfriend recalled to me his sizzling and romantic weekend with this cute guy he met through Friendster. (So who says only straight guys can kiss and tell? huh!). He told me that he could really feel they have this certain connection and that he's really happy and inspired now. Then he dropped the question, "Ano na ba kami?" because the cute guy have already asked him if he can promise to be "exclusive" but nothing about being, you know, officially "together". I saw traces of confusion on his glowing face because apparently this is his first time. So I explained to him that he's on a No-Strings-Attached relationship which is a normal thing and actually a very popular one nowadays, not only to the gay community.

It's so easy to draw the line when you see the person only as a friend. But what if you met someone, you discovered that the two of you have this certain connection until he became your "favorite friend". Then one thing leads to another until you find yourself straddling the line between being friends and being a couple. How and when can you rub out the mark that separates love and friendship? And is it right to demand "exclusive right" from that person?

Unlike in a real relationship where protocols are clearly defined, being in a noncommital relationship can be fun yet confusing. For in this side of the fence, there are no rules. Here you can enjoy all the fine things that comes with the real package and the ugly parts are left behind. But sometimes you can be engulfed by your emotions that you start to demand and you start to expect because you tend to forget that after all there are no strings attached. So you have to keep your guards up and remind yourself every now and then that where you are standing on, there is no commitment and at the end of the day you never know you might end up empty handed. So you're only expected to enjoy the ride and you're not supposed to limit yourself to that person, for "exclusiveness" comes only with commitment right? -- But what if you only want him? -- Oh well...as i've said, this can be discombobulating or perplexing.

So what is it with this thing that actually make us agree to stay?

I'm sure my gayfriend is not alone in this field even if the pleasure blinds you from the pain and complications that looms ahead. But unfortunately there are people who are actually just willing to settle in this delusion just to avoid the fear of failure because they can just walk away if things don't work out. Or simply because it's a comfortable arrangement especially to some who can't stay still with one person.

No Strings attached can be very exciting, but time can wear it out and someday you'll find yourself asking the question "Where is this going?". I think that's when the game ends and you have to lay your cards on the table. This is the time you decide whether to take the next step forward or put him back to the other side where he belongs and move on so you can find someone more worthy of your time, who is brave enough to face the commitment that trails along the strings.

Butterfly Kisses

While listening to Butterfly Kisses (Claire's first choice for her bridal march) during lunchbreak, I remember last Saturday when my papa called me up to check on how I was doing, in the middle of our conversation he suddenly asked me, "Sino daw yung sabi ng mama mo na nanliligaw sa iyo ngayon beng?". I didn't have any plan of answering his question for I knew it would mean a talk that will never end. So I just changed the topic by asking him what he wanted to have on his birthday and he gave me a funny answer, "Kahit wala na lang gift, basta wag ka lang mag asawa ha."

My father can be really amusing, I think he has forgotten that his little girl is now 25 years old. Well, Papa is a known playboy back in his younger years and so I understand where his ire for boys, as far as I am concerned, is coming from. (But it could get in my nerves sometimes)

I grew up like Rapunzel locked up in a tower, except that my long curly hair couldn't help me from his watchful eyes. I remember when I was in grade 2, my classmates Victor and Alfred who live in the village invited me go to Kristine's house to play, I told them to wait outside for a while coz I had to ask permission first. When papa found out that I was going out with boys, he forbid me to even go out of the door, so I begged with my futile cry until I fell asleep crying..I didn't know how long Victor and Alfred waited outside our gate that afternoon for they never talked to me after that.

I wasn't spared until highschool, when my kuya's friends(our school heartthrobs) would hangout in the house, I was not allowed to entertain them and I was required to go to my room and hide(kainis!). So just imagine his shock when he accidentally saw me in the mall with 18 guys in tow.(They were just Chinese school basketball varsity teammates of my barkada's boyfriend ok). I bet you already have a picture what happened to me when I got home.

He may be stricter than a regular dad, but it's not all bad memories. There are more times in my life when he made me feel like I am a precious gem in his life. During summer afternoons in our farm in Malalag, he would take me to one part of the road to watch the sun set behind the mountains where buses for General Santos pass. I could no longer remember what the sunset looks like, but I could still feel how happy I was while sitting on his lap listening to his 'bus' stories. Since I didn't have a playmate, he asked Manong Marshal (our family carpenter) to make me a beautiful pink bahay-bahay made of bamboo( which he himself cut from the farm), in our backyard. It was so pretty that it looked like a real house complete with little stairs and dining tables. He didn't sleep the night before my debut because he was busy baking and decorating my very beautiful and yummy pink and white, 3-layered cake complete with little satellite cakes for my ninongs and ninangs.

During one of those painful nights, when I was going through my first heartbreak (courtesy of my jerk ex boyfriend in college), he jokingly asked me "Sinong kaaway sweetheart ko?" like I was a little girl crying over her broken toy. Then he whispered to me, "Sabi ko na nga ba sasaktan ka lang ng mga lalaking yan.", while he hugged me so tightly, it felt like everything will be alright. Until now it melts my heart everytime I remember that night.

Maybe that's the reason why my love for a person could easily wane if he fall short of my expectations. For I haven't found someone yet, who could come close to how my father made me feel extra special. Well, maybe someday when I will finally find that someone, with Butterfly Kisses playing, my father will walk with me down the aisle and hopefully be willing to let go of his little girl.

"With all that I've done wrong I must have done something right to deserve my papa's love every morning..."